Compassion vs. Fear: what wins in your 30s?

Andreea
4 min readMar 1, 2023

For most people, reaching the age of 30 is a major milestone. It signals the conclusion of one decade and the start of another, perhaps an even better one. It may be an opportunity to consider your professional and personal objectives. It is normal to experience fear and anxiety about the future at this stage of life. Even though we become wiser and more fabulous, the fear of failure sticks, particularly in the creative industries but I honestly believe everyone has it in one form or another, regardless of their jobs.

I have experienced my fair share of struggles with this anxiety as a senior digital copywriter who just turned 30, and I still do.
I’ve learned that most writers frequently struggle with the dread of failing and I have come to believe that it is vital to meet this issue with empathy, as eyerolling as it might sound.

But how did it get here? At my job, I have to write all day, and what began as “I feel depleted of energy and inspiration, after having spent 8-10 hours/day writing for others, I do not have the bandwidth to do it for myself anymore” turned into “I am scared people are going to hate it”.
I am not going to lie, it’s easier said than done to get over it and this fear has stopped me from writing for years. It still feels weird and scary to sit at my keyboard and write for myself now. No

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Andreea

I write about books, creative processes, and mental health. Living vicariously through fictional characters that my therapist approves of.